Unlikely Inspiration? A work in
progress...
Inspiration comes from some likely and equally unlikely
places.
No one that knows me now has any inkling that I
did not actually cook real food until I was maybe 26 years old – or so. Prior to that I would cook various odd things
such as biscuits, cornbread muffins, beef and green pepper stir-fry, zucchini
bread and - uh, that might have been it unless you want to count cooking
noodles and adding ketchup or making chocolate/banana milkshakes. That was real food, but not a meal. In the military (from mid 1984 until late
1986) I did not have access to a kitchen, only a chow hall and fast-food. While
stationed at Darmstadt in then West Germany, I married and gained an apartment
with all the usual appliances (although the fridge was SO SMALL as they are in
Germany!). At that point, I only
remember cooking hamburger helper and - say it isn't so - Chef BRD. Kit (then husband) might remember differently
and I will update this if he does.
Over the years, I barely ate. Food was not my
friend. I did not care for it and could go for days with only
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| Daughter @ 17 |
eating very small
'meals.' Yep, a 'meal' might be a half a
can of Chef BRD in a day. I was THIN. By ‘thin’ I mean – I had NO relationship with
food except pure survival. Even today,
when I cook the things you see posted here, I can only eat small amounts of
what I make even though I really like what I cook. I will not typically make something if it is
something I do not eat. I really only
like 2 people enough to cook a food for that I do not like, and one is my
daughter. So, if I attempt to make a
dish for anyone that I have no clue how it should taste, you can count yourself
special.
At this time I still eat chocolate, cake, Chef BRD, Totino's
Pizza Rolls, cake, Coca~Cola, chocolate, grilled cheese, Tv dinners, cake and
McD's more than I eat my own food. Yea, I typed chocolate twice and cake three
times. So, I guess I still do not have
the best relationship with food. But, as
with things that are important to me, I keep trying. I never really give up. Did I say I don't give
up? Maybe that is why I keep trying to cook and perfect the food/dishes. I am constantly driven by the hope that I will
grow to truly love food like an Italian. Oh, wait, I am not Italian! LOL English, Irish, Scots, Cherokee... That English blood might be the problem. Have you eaten in London? As a rule, I am not impressed with English
food! I don't think the Brits are known
for food. The best London restaurant I ate in – was Italian! I swear I think it
was Mafia. If I remember correctly, the door was plain and the entry unmarked
in an alley. When you went in, it had a grand entryway complete with a huge
staircase down to the tables, washroom attendants, a coat check and etc. Good
Food. ☺
My Mother always cooked basic food (don't tell her
I said that as it sounds bad…). It was
good food.
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| Mom @ 12 |
Simple, inexpensive, low
country food. She was taught by her
mother who I am sure was taught by hers. I did not really pay that much attention when
I was a child but I do remember roasts, stroganoff, mom's canned vegetables and
soups, cornbread, rolls, biscuits, chef salads and etc. Dad would cook the
hamburgers and steaks on a charcoal grill outside. I have grown to appreciate that food more
today. My parents always insisted that
my brother and I at least TRY the various odd things they came up with. OK, I am sorry, but I still do not like pork
brains – I do not care how you cook them up! I was a picky eater as a child. I did not like green beans, lima beans,
squash, greens, fried green tomatoes, fried okra, cottage cheese, yogurt,
vanilla anything. After awhile they gave
up on my eating some foods. I think they
grew tired of watching me sitting there - gagging! I have since learned to eat all of that except
cottage cheese and yogurt. I have to admit though, in the army’s basic training,
I ate yogurt because I thought I would starve to death with all the physical
activity we had to participate in. I actually ate light bread with butter
MASHED onto it. I gained around 30+ pounds in basic training. I suppose part of
that was muscle (I like to think so). Four weeks after I arrived in Germany at
my permanent duty station, I lost all that plus more. The Army is not known for
its food. Duh!
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| Dad at about 25? |
Mom’s contribution to my need for food perfection
was really tweaked by her banana pudding and chocolate pies!
Mmm !
My GrandMa Taylor made the best biscuits and
GrandPa Taylor taught me to put butter (from his cow) and honey (from his bees)
on them - OMG! Such a tasty memory. GrandMa also made roasts, green beans,
no-bake oatmeal cookies, salmon patties (which will end up on here eventually I
am sure), cornbread, potatoes, and corn. They grew their own vegetables and
apples plus processed their own meats. I did not enjoy the chicken killing, but
it was not traumatic for me either – which is rather shocking really.
My GrandMa Garrett cooked cornmeal dusted bluegill
fish, fish eggs, cornbread, green beans, corn, potatoes, soft sugar cookies,
chicken & dumplings, blackberry & rhubarb cobblers, squirrel, deer,
frog legs, pork and etc. GrandPa sure could hunt and fish as well as make a
hell of an apple stack cake. GrandPa would probably not be impressed with me
saying 'hell.' I remember GrandPa Garrett drying apples in the sun on a table
topped with tin roof material and covered with cheese-cloth. I have a photo on
the wall of GrandPa long before I was alive, with his rifle, a racoon and what
I think was his RedBone hunting dog. I
do not recall eating coon… ‘Nough said. They canned their own vegetables and meats.
They grew their own vegetables and fruits including grapes, blueberries (which
we still pick today), strawberries, melons, peanuts, apples and etc. GrandPa
kept potatoes and apples in a root cellar. The underground root cellar is still
scary. I was a bit traumatized when I figured out the bacon we had one year - I
had named at some point in the recent past. Ooops... Well, PETA can get over it
since I did. The smoke house and I did not mind in the end!
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| Yes! A REAL Root Cellar |
So, in all those years, I failed to pay enough attention
to my surroundings and learn. What I DID learn from my two sets of GrandParents and my Parents is, however, immeasurable. Now I crave for information and memories. I beg for
information from various older family members. I do cook a lot of simple, low
country food. Fried everything (okra, green tomatoes, chicken, fish). I've pickle
garlic, green tomatoes, carrots and etc. I have learned to make blueberry jelly
as well as apple jelly, apple butter, peach butter, pear butter and strawberry
jelly. I dry apples, peppers and now tomatoes. I have branched out into various
nationalities of food and also cakes and pies. I'm no baker, so I'm still working
on cakes and cookies. All I can say about cookies is – a pan is my friend.
The person who actually got my attention when I
was younger was one that I did not realize until recently. My cousin Rena. Rena
passed away maybe 10+- years ago. When I first remember her, I was maybe 7 years old and I think she was already in her 50s or 60s. I will get to the
point. Rena was college educated in home-economics. She cooked, sewed,
crafted, created, and etc. When she put food on the table, it was an event. If you
finished your plate, she would be upset if you did not go for seconds. She
fixed 'fancy' foods. Stir-fry, tarts, torts, fancy cakes, casseroles and etc.
She made a simple sandwich meal so fancy and loving. My cousin (her daughter) and I would come back from the pool to fancy pita pocket sandwiches
(what, no light-bread?) filled with smoked turkey, lettuce, tomato served up
with either potato or pasta salad on the side and chips on the plate. The drink of
choice was glass-bottled coke, lemonade or Fresca with ice. Dessert would be
some baked good or fresh cut-up fruit. Even my daughter remembers eating at similar 'easy' foods with a side of fresh peaches in cream at Rena's. All this food was
served up on red earthenware plates. Her favorite color was red! Rena drank.
Rena drank hard alcohol. Only a handful of relatives drink any alcohol in my
family even today. Baptists you know. I was amazed that my old cousin drank! I
was fascinated by it really.
OK, I am a southern girl. I take a simple story
and weave all manner of information into it. Sorry! That will only get worse as
I get older.
I guess...
What I eventually learned from Rena was
three-fold:
1. Never stop learning - even if it is
just in food or art.
2. Take the simple and make it
fabulous.
3. Travel all you can manage. The
memories may be all you have to hold onto in old age.
Some ways I tried to live up to my lessons
included:
Taking a tray of hot chocolate and small cookies
or a tray of drinks, soup and crackers, or of various cheeses out under the
tree to the chairs to sit with my daughter. She was maybe 10 at the time I
started that. The time-frame gets a little fuzzy now, but, my daughter still
seems to remember these times. The presentation would be all fancy, by candle
light and cute, almost like a tea party I guess. We did not have much money so
our fun food times were simple. There were times when we toasted
mini-marshmallows over a burning candle. We had those yard torches burning, roses
growing and neighbors watching the odd family.
In recent years I threw what I call 'gatherings'
where I just cooked, cooked and cooked some more around a theme. A pumpkin
carving party with friends that included traditional harvest fare. An Italian
food gathering with foods I had not tested, but made anyway. That one included
12 people under a dining tent in the rain. The table was made of sawhorses with
a supported wood top covered by a huge table cloth and liner (that I had to
make to fit such a large ‘table’), china, crystal and candles. Presentation was
everything to me. Christmas was a good reason for heavy hors d’oeuvres
including mini fried apple pies, hoe-cakes, truffles, sauces, mini Nachitoches
meat pies, fried biscuits, cheeses, meats, meatballs, crackers and etc. More
china, crystal, Depression glass and candles graced the table. It was a good
night. And yes, there were cookies, but not one I tried to make came out – so I
had to actually buy those!
Sometimes I would bring home olives, lox, and
crackers. I would chop up onions, lemons and chives and place all this on glass
trays along with cream cheese, sour cream and capers in antique china bowls.
This is a snack, with candles, in the middle of the day. Relish trays are our
friend! Other times I cut up fresh fruits and make fruit cups mixed with a dash
of sugar and lemon or lime juice. Always easy, always tasty, always pretty.
In this way I guess I show my love, or luv, for
people who truly appreciate the thought and effort that goes into the act. I
just want to make the simple things elegant, thoughtful and fun. Don’t get me
wrong, I will toss things on the table and move on, but sometimes I just want
it to be special. I am afraid I am not so inspired very often of late. It is
really a sad state of affairs when that happens...
OK, so I learned from my parents and grandparents
to use what you have, make it great, make it last and always share what you
have. What I taught my daughter was all that plus - never turn your nose up at
the food a person/family offers as you may insult them. Just because it is not
what you are used to does not make it less than or better than what you
normally eat - it is just different. AND, NEVER take all the food the person
has out as it may very well be all they have for a few days, or a week, or....
Take a small amount on your plate, finish it enthusiastically while being
gracious and grateful.
Thank them from your heart!
